Being Happy with your Partner

Being happy with our partner means that we are happy together. I am happy, my partner is happy, and we are sharing our mutual happiness together.

In a happy relationship, both partners are responsible for their own happiness. Only once they are both individually happy can they share their happiness with each other.

We cannot make our partner happy, we can only please them by meeting their emotional needs.

When we please another by meeting their emotional needs, they become dependent on us, and this will interfere with their long term happiness.

We can be happy with our partner, once we become accepting of what they do, approving of who they are, and allowing of what they have.

When we tolerate what another does, disapprove of who they are being, and are possessive of what they have, we are unhappy with that other, whether they are happy or not.

Our partner will be unhappy with us when they disapprove, are unaccepting and disallowing of who we are being, what we are doing or what we have.

Our partner’s unhappiness with us is not our issue, it is their’s. With sensitive-detachment, we can remain happy our self and empower them to see their issues.

Our unhappiness is not our partner’s issue, it is our’s. When we blame our partner for our unhappiness, we are guilty of not taking responsibility for our own happiness and are taking responsibility for their’s instead.

Conscious-Awareness

Conscious-awareness is having a rational understanding of our emotional state of Being. It is being Emotionally-Rational.

It is knowing our feelings that guide us to see (get/understand) the bigger picture of what we have chosen to experience.

It is having the inspiration (power) and revelation (authority) to harness our creative imagination (ability).

Being irrationally-emotional is over-reacting to an intense and uncontrollable impulse. This is being too sensitive to our power without having the authority to use it.

Being unemotionally-rational is being conscious without awareness. This is being too detached (disconnected) from our power, so that our authority becomes ineffective.

When consciousness and awareness mean the same thing then we have no distinction between our physical and spiritual states of being and are consciously aware of our physical existence only.

Inter-Developmental

In an inter-developmental and loving relationship, each partner:

• Allows the other to want and have what they choose for them self, with favour. Favour means what we choose, what we favour.
• Accepts what ever their partner does with mercy. Mercy means to live and let live.
• Approves of who their partner is being at all times with grace. Grace means to be in our power.

Once we become in a state of Being allowing, accepting and approving of our Self, we can then share our beingness with our partner by allowing, accepting and approving of who they choose to be, how they choose to act and what they choose to have.

When we “do unto our partner as we would have them do unto us”, we enter into an interdevelopmental relationship for mutual spiritual development and expansive growth.

Rich & Wealthy

We are rich with physical resources and wealthy with an abundance of emotionally positive energy.

We cannot become wealthy by being rich and we can be rich without being wealthy, but we cannot be wealthy without becoming rich.

If you would rather be rich and unhappy than poor and unhappy, then you will become rich but unhappy.

If you would rather be poor and happy than rich and unhappy, then you will become happy being poor.

Happiness is not dependent on being rich or poor.

When we choose to be wealthy with happiness, then we will receive a wealth of riches and an abundance of happiness.

An abundance of energy manifests as the Power of Love in the form of Happiness, Health, Wealth, Wisdom, Time, Space, and the Reality of money and material possessions.

When we meet all our emotional needs, we connect to our true source of power and become wealthy. We can then do what we truly value to do and enjoy living an abundant life experiencing everything of value and valuing the richness of everything that we experience.

Knowing

 Knowing is an awareness of being consciously connected to the core of our spiritual  essence.

Our awareness of knowing is our connection to our spiritual authority at the heart of our Being.

We are conscious of what we know to be real with our five physical senses.

We are aware of what we do not know to be real with our three spiritual senses of Knowing, Seeing & Feeling.

Moving to a state of Knowing that we do not know, allows us to access our sense of Knowing through revelation.

When we think that we know everything then this becomes our reality and the doors, that open us up to new revelations, remain firmly closed.

To Know the answers, we must first find the questions that will reveal the answers.

We are already aware of the answers but we will not consciously remember them until we unlock the awareness with a conscious question.

An Epiphany or Ah! Ha! Moment is a revelation of Knowing the answer to the question that we have been asking.

The right question will always unlock the door to our Knowing.

“Ask and it shall be given”

States of Dependency

Dependent means relying on another person to meet our physical and emotional needs.

Co-dependent is a relationship in which each partner is dependent on the other for meeting their physical and emotional needs.

Independent means a state of being responsible for meeting ones own physical and emotional needs.

Inter-dependent is a relationship where two independent people share their power, whilst retaining their own authority and following their own individual paths.

Inter-developmental is a relationship where two independent people share their power and authority and follow identical paths.

Dependent is being together by necessity.

Co-dependent is being together in separateness.

Independent is being separate in separateness.

Inter-dependent is being separate in togetherness.

Inter-developmental is being together in togetherness.

Unawakened Souls form co-dependent relationships.

Awakened Soul-ties form inter-dependent relationships.

Awakened Soul-mates form inter-developmental relationships.

Electric Energy

Electric energy is the flow of physical electrons from one atomic nucleus to another.

Electricity is the physical effect of electric energy on physical matter. There is no physical effect of electricity unless a resistance is placed in the flow of electric energy.

We are the physical effect of placing a resistance into the divine flow of Universal Energy, which has three aspects of Divinity. It has an omnipotent magnitude of power called Love; an omniscient force of authority called Light; and an omnipresent potential of ability called Life.

A physical dimension of Universal Energy is called electricity, which has three aspects or properties of flow. It has a magnitude of power measured in amps; a force of authority measured in volts; and a potential ability measured in watts.

The potential of the wattage of electricity to perform ‘work’ is relative to the force of volts and the magnitude of its amperage.

Universal Energy is infinite, eternal and continuous. It can never be destroyed, yet it can change its form. One such form of energy is experienced as electricity.

The potential for Universal Energy to create the ability of Life is relative to the force of the authority of Light and the magnitude of the power of Love that is permitted to flow without resistance.

With the ability to allow our authority and power to flow in harmony without resistance, we are able to realise, manifest and create, by the Law of Attraction, anything that we want to Be, Do, or Have.

Attributes & Attainments

 An Attribute is a state of Being that is a positive aspect of who we are in that moment of time. It is the emotional state of Being that is attributed to us and is a tribute to us.

An Attainment is what we have accomplished up to that point in time. It is what we have attained and the level of consciousness that we have.

We are aware of our Attributes and we are consciously-aware of our Attainments or the attributes that we have attained.

Being an attribute or an Attribute of Being is a momentary experience of emotion in time.

Attaining an attribute is the skill of becoming consciously-aware of one’s state of Being and being able to consciously choose to vibrate at that emotional level.

An attribute is something that happens to us, until we learn the ability of attaining that attribute at conscious will.

Being Content is an attribute of Happiness. To attain Contentment, we are required not just to be aware of being content but to consciously raise our energy vibration to become in a state of Being Content, whenever we choose to attain it.

Our 4 Dimensional Universe

Our Milky Way Galaxy circles the Universe  at a speed of 850,000 mph on its eternal journey.

Our Solar System rotates around the galactic centre at a speed of 500,000 mph once every 26,000 years.

Our Planet Earth orbits the Sun once every 12 months at a speed of 66,000 mph.

Our Planet Earth spins on its axis once every 24 hours at a speed in excess of 1,000 mph.

Even when stationary, we are moving in four different directions at the same time:

• Spinning on the Earth’s axis
• Orbiting the Sun
• Rotating around the Galaxy
• Circling the Universe

To move in four different directions at the same time requires the universe to have at least four different dimensions through which to move.

We understand the 3 dimensions of:

• Length – back & forth
• Breadth – left & right
• Depth – up & down

In a 3 dimensional world we are unable to see or describe the 4th dimension of movement but logic makes us aware of its existence.

In an expanding Universe the 4th dimension of Space is the ‘in & out’ motion of expansion and contraction. Its expansion is directly opposite its direction of contraction, which is towards the point at which expansion was created.

In a finite universe there is one universal centre. In an infinite universe there are infinite universal centres with infinite dimensions and infinite possibilities for everything.

The Need to be Needed

Our Soul needs our Self.

Our Soul is our Spiritual Entity that requires a Self to Be its physical Identity.

Without the Spiritual Entity our Self is just a material Id.

The material Id is born into physicality and becomes conscious of its Self.

The awareness of the conscious self is called the ego. The unawareness of our conscious self is called the sub-conscious id.

The sub-conscious id and the conscious ego, that is our self, follows the fate of its upbringing and the programming that it receives from family, friends and society.

Whereas the Soul needs the Self in order to experience, discover and explore physical life, the Self exists quite autonomously in ignorance of the Soul, until it becomes ‘awakened’.

The Souls vision, mission and purpose in life is designed to accomplish personal expansive growth for its Self.

In the absence of being connected to what our Soul knows, the Self knows it is needed but doesn’t know why. This develops in the Self a need to be needed which will only be met once the Self knows what it needs to do.

When we know that our Soul needs our Self, we know that we are needed and our need to be needed is satisfied, at which point we become content, fulfilled and joyful knowing the connection that we have with the Soul our Inner Coach.

Awakening to Spirit

Our destiny is to follow the life path of our Inner Coach – Our Soul. It remains our fate until we are awakened to the distinction between what is our fate and what is our destiny.

Before we are awakened to spirit, we are unaware that our fate and our destiny are different.

Our awakening brings an awareness of spirit and a knowing of who we are and why we are here.

It is our destiny to explore, experience and discover who we are and why we are here.

Until we become awake to spirit and the existence of our Soul as our Inner Teacher, we believe that our destiny is our fate and is in the hands of the gods.

Once awakened, we realise that souls are the gods, or the individualised essence of God that connects our Self to God.

God is the Prime Creator of All that Is. Our Soul is a ‘Spark’ of the All of Everything that is the guardian of the chosen destiny of our Self.

Our destiny is to fulfil our individual part of the Divine Plan as chosen and directed by our unique and exclusive Soul.

Hope

Hope is ‘God’s Promise’ of a Great Life.

When we do not believe the promise, we need hope, and we hope to have a great life in the future.

Once we understand God’s promise, we no longer need hope, because we already have it!

God’s Promise is to give us everything we ask. When we get that everything we have is given by God, because at some level we have asked for it, then we know that it is not hope that we need but a new perspective of what we already have. With a new perspective of what we created of old, we can recreate our reality aligned to our new perspective.

Hoping is not Hope, it is an expectation that someone else will change our life for us, when the reality is that we are the creators of our own reality, as God Promises and delivers in every moment of time.

Success & Failure

What the rational mind believes to be a mistake or a failure – the spiritual mind knows is a missed learning opportunity.

What the rational mind believes to be a success – the spiritual mind knows is a failed opportunity to learn and grow.

Success and failure are therefore different polarities of the same energy viewed from opposing perspectives.

True Accomplishment has neither success nor failure. When we attain the attributes and ability to create our own life consciously, we accomplish the State of Divinity because we have created a divine state of accomplishment.

To know who we really are and why we are here is and always will be our greatest accomplishment. Yet because this is our truest vision we can never achieve it successfully nor can we ever fail, whilst living in the world of relative dual reality.

Divorce

The only grounds for divorce is when a marriage has irretrievably broken down.

 A marriage becomes irretrievably broken down when one or both partners in a co-dependent relationship no longer can or needs to depend on the other partner to meet their emotional needs. At this point the marriage breaks up.

Co-dependent marriages exist to meet the needs of both partners. When this is no longer the function of the partnership, the marriage becomes under threat of break-up.

Where the greatest emotional need is freedom, then the freedom of independence will doom the co-dependent relationship to certain failure.

In a climate of accelerated spiritual growth, the break-up of divorce and the break-down of co-dependency is almost inevitable.

The break-down of co-dependency is essential to the spiritual development of both partners before they can establish their mutual independence within an inter-developmental relationship.

When a marriage appears to be irretrievably broken-down is the time of greatest spiritual growth and learning.

It is not the marriage that is broken down but the emotional state of being of the partners within the marriage, because they are not getting their emotional needs met.

An unawakened couple will accept that they can no longer live with the emotional trauma of not changing. So they decide to change their partner instead of who they are themselves being. They can no longer live with the reflection of themself that their partner is reflecting to them and run away in denial of their self.

Once we become awakened to our spiritual path and aware of what our soul-mate has covenented to do for us, we can then face up to our reflected demons. Like energy is drawn to like energy. We are a reflection of what our partner seeks to change within them self.

The purpose of a spiritual partnership is to see our challenges and the truth of who we are being as a reflection in the beliefs and behaviours of our partner. What we dislike most about our partner is what we most need to work on in our self.

A spiritual partnership cannot therefore become irretrievably broken down as its very purpose is to break-down the negative aspects of our Beingness, in order to move us towards a positive state of union in holy matrimony.

The purpose of a spiritual inter-developmental partnership is to break down all the aspects (needs, beliefs and dramas) of both partners that are neither Divine nor Holy 

Righteous & Self-Righteous

Being Righteous is accepting that we all have and create our own reality. It is our ‘Right’ to be the creator of our own world.

Being self-righteous is believing that there is only one reality and therefore only one truth, which is ours.

Believing our self to be righteous is being self-righteous when we believe that all others are sinners and following the wrong path.

Being a sinner is the right of all who are unawakened to their right path.

Becoming ‘without sin’ or Being ‘Divine’ is the choice of all who become awakened to their right path.

Being Righteous is following the path that is right for us and allowing all others to follow the path that is right for them.

Being self-righteous is wanting everyone to follow our path because we believe that it is right for them.

Being Righteous is having Divine Humility, which is the Acceptance of our own path.

Being self-righteous is having the humility of being proud of not being proud, which is called modesty.

We tolerate others whilst being proud or in humility. With Righteousness we accept the Oneness of everything.