Chance

When I see life as a series of problems to be solved, I need and rely on luck to overcome them and find a solution.

In a problematic life, chance and luck are seen as the same thing.

When I see life as a quest or a challenge, I still need luck to fulfil my intentions and life remains chancy as there is always the risk of failure.

In a challenging life, chance and risk are seen as the same thing.

When I see life as an endless flow of infinite opportunities, I am no longer challenged and I no longer need luck and good fortune.

In an opportunistic life chance and opportunity are seen as the same thing.

Every opportunity is a chance to experience life anew. Every chance in life is an opportunity to experience a new life, a new opportunity and a new experience.

When life is embraced as a new opportunity, there is never a chance of failure and never a chance of bad luck and misfortune.

There is only ever the chance of personal spiritual development & growth.

My Emotional Intelligence

My Emotional Intelligence is my level of awareness of my emotional state of being.

Emotional Intelligence is a measure of my ability to be Emotional with conscious-awareness.

Being Emotional is consciously knowing, seeing and/or feeling my own personal energetic state of being.

Being Emotional is not being emotionally reactive.

Reacting in a negative emotional state i.e. anger, frustration, intolerance, is a sign of non-awareness, ignorance and an absence of emotional intelligence.

We react with a low level of emotional intelligence and we are able to respond positively with a high level of emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence is:

• Knowing my own exclusive level of Self-Confidence to make my own choices with authority.
• Feeling my own unique level of Self-Worth that gives me the power to fulfil my own choices.
• Seeing my own individual level of Self-Esteem that results from having the special ability to connect to my own unique power and exclusive authority.

Tension & Release

Tension and Release are in opposition. They are a duality.

All tension needs release. We need release when we are not free.

With release, tension becomes Relief.

Our lack of freedom creates tension that is without relief and needs release.

When we release the tension, we become free and relieved with a new lease of life.

Tension is created by entropy, negativity and resistance, when we are pushing against the natural flow of our life.

Sexual tension is created when the gender of our energy is divided, that is, our male and female energy is not united.

We require a partner of our opposite gender to temporarily re-unite our male & female energy and release our negative sexual tension.

When we learn to consciously unite our own male and female energy, we no longer experience any sexual tension that requires to be released.

When we bring our own energy into harmony, our own inner tension is released and we are free to unite and harmonise with our partner in pure ecstasy, joy & oneness.

Our ‘intention’ is not to be ‘in tension’.

Empathy & Compassion

Empathy means resonating in harmony with the same positive energy as another, which is the same polarity of energy as another.

Compassion means sharing our passion with another, which is harmonising in resonance with the opposing positive gender to another.

Female positive energy that is connected, sensitive & emotional will resonate in empathy with similar female positive energy.

Male positive energy that is exclusive, detached and rational will resonate in empathy with similar male positive energy.

Female positive energy that is connected, sensitive and emotional will harmonise in compassion with male positive energy that is exclusive, detached and rational.

True Compassion is compassionate empathy, which requires both the polarity and gender of our own energy to be resonating in harmony and communion.

Empathic-Compassion is the attainment of becoming: Exclusively-Connected; Sensitively-Detached; & Emotionally-Rational.

Sympathy & Apathy

Sympathy, being sympathetic or being in sympathy with means:

“Resonating with the same female negative energy as another”.

Apathy, being apethetic or being without sympathy means:

“Resonating with the opposing male negative energy to another”.

When we are being attached, inclusive and irrational, we are being in sympathy with another.

When we are being insensitive, disconnected and unemotional, we are being apathetic to another.

The state of being apathetic is seen as being uncompassionate when it is actually being unsympathetic.

The state of being in sympathy is often mistaken for compassion and wanting to alleviate the suffering of another.

Wanting to alleviate the suffering of another is the consequence of resonating with the victimhood of another.

This never alleviates suffering but increases the suffering for both people who are resonating in sympathy for each others victimhood.

Compassion is sharing our passion with another. Our passion is always a positive contribution, not a sharing of our negative energy.

We have negative sympathy for another but positive empathy with another when we are being compassionate.

Defining Reality

We give Life meaning by defining it as a reality.

Everything is just energy until we give it definition with our thought about it.

Our thoughts about something give it definition, purpose and meaning.

We give definition to something by defining its polar opposite.

We define:

• Life by experiencing death, disease and decay
• Good by experiencing what is wrong, bad or evil
• Light by experiencing darkness and ignorance
• Love by experiencing hate, fear and lust
• Greed by experiencing pleasing and subservience
• Gluttony by experiencing scarcity and poverty
• Pride by experiencing humility and modesty
• Envy by experiencing kindness and generosity
• Sloth by experiencing will power and due diligence
• Arrogance by experiencing humbleness and inferiority
• Wrath, anger & frustration by experiencing meekness, tolerance and patience

Only once we have explored the polar extremes of our thoughts, words and actions are we able to find the balance and harmony that has a meaning to our Self.

Only by defining a reality that we do not want can we consciously choose our Reality of Choice.

Unforgiveness

Unforgiveness:

• Is being the victim of someone else’s action.
• Requires an injustice to be rectified.
• Requires justice to be served on the guilty.
• Requires those convicted of their guilt to be punished accordingly and appropriately.
• Requires an ‘eye for an eye’ and ‘a tooth for a tooth’.
• Requires a revenge called justice.
• Requires honour to be served and misfortune to be appeased.
• Allows us to wallow in our victimhood until we are suitably compensated.
• Breeds a compensation culture.
• Blames everyone including our self.
• Is the unacceptance of our True Nature and our True Identity.

Being Guilty

Guilt is a sentence that we pass on our self.

We are found guilty when convicted of our limiting beliefs and fears.

We are punished by the beliefs that are the sentences that convict us.

We are guilty of making a judgment about what is right and what is wrong.

Even when we are judged to be right, we are still found guilty of making a judgment.

We cannot be right or wrong and be without judgment and guilt.

When we move to non-judgment, we are guilty of not making a choice and we will be judged by our previous choices.

When we believe that we are not guilty, then we are guilty of projecting our guilt on to someone else.

Projected guilt is called blame and is a negative belief about someone who we believe to be wrong or we believe to have wronged our self.

The only defence against guilt and the only way to overcome guilt is the Acceptance of our Forgiveness.

The Golden Ratio

In a two dimensional world with a singular reality, the Golden Ratio is always 50:50 or 1:1.

One to one or fifty-fifty is equal shares. Everything is balanced and equal.

In a three dimensional world of dual reality the Golden Ratio becomes nearer 60:40 and everything becomes individual and unique.

Three dimensional dual reality allows the unity of oneness, the choice of twoness and the equality of threeness.

Physical beauty and Attraction are synonymous with the Golden Ratio of 1:1.618, which is also .618:1 or 61.8%:38.2%.

When we see the relative world of dual reality as a triality with 3 dimensions, the Golden Ratio becomes: .618:1:1.618, which is also .191:.309:.5 or 19.1%:30.9%:50%.

It is this formula that creates the 80:20 rule (80.9%:19.1%) where 20% 0f the world owns 80% of the wealth.

The Golden Ratio follows the formula: (a+b/a)=(a/b)=(b+c/b)=(b/c)=1.618.

Everything appears to be out of balance but is in fact perfectly balanced.

When a=.5; b=.309; c=.191; then a+b+c=1=100%

The formula for all Trialities in a dualistic world is therefore: c+b=a.

Combining aspect ‘c’ with aspect ‘b’ brings the system back into balance with ‘a’.

When we combine aspect ‘a’ with aspect ‘b’, the system gets way out of balance with ‘c’.

Conscious Creation

Consciously Creating our own Reality requires an understanding of the Law of Attraction:

“Like Energy is drawn unto itself”.

The Law of Attraction is our Spiritual Nature, not a physical law.

Physical Science (Physics) is the study of physical matter and how it behaves in a physical world.

All matter is created out of Energy by thought.

The ‘Energy of Thought’ is Spiritual, not physical.

Thoughts are a creation of Consciousness and act according to the nature of spirit/energy. They do not obey physical laws.

Our Reality is a conscious creation of our thoughts, but not just our conscious thoughts.

Our thoughts originate from both our sub-conscious ‘id’ and our Super-Conscious ‘Entity’.

Consciously creating our Reality requires an awareness of both our sub-conscious programming and the Super-Conscious Vision for our Life.

Before we can connect to our Super-Conscious Ability to consciously create our own Reality, we are required to become consciously-aware of the energies that we are attracting with our sub-conscious fears, limiting beliefs and inherited mental programmes.

Leader or Manager?

Am I a Leader, a Manager or both?

       Am I leading my own life?

       Am I managing my own life?

       Am I managing to lead my life?

       Am I leading a well managed life?

       Am I following my own authority or someone else’s?

       Am I leading others on my path?

       Am I managing others on their path?

       Am I following another on their path?

       Am I managing to follow another on their path?

       Is another managing my life for me?

       Is another leading my life for me?

       Am I living my life through another?

       Is another living their life through me?

       Am I managing to follow my path in life?

       Am I leading the life that I have chosen?

Leadership & Management

Some Distinctions between Leaders and Managers:

Leaders have a vision, mission and purpose

Managers have objectives, tasks and standards

Leaders are driven by their emotional needs

Managers are driven by the needs of their business

Leaders are Inner Directed

Managers are Outer Directed

Leaders follow their own path

Managers follow their leader

Leaders require followers

Managers require employees

Leaders intuitively know, see and feel what is right

Managers have knowledge, understanding and are in touch with their responsibilities

Leadership is about who we are Being

Management is about what we are Doing

The qualities of Leadership are our attributes and attainments

The qualities of Management are our abilities and skills

Leadership qualities of Inspiration; Intuition; Innovation; Insight; Invention; Ingenuity; Imagination; are all innate.

Management skills of Planning; Promoting; Problem Solving; Communicating; Analysing; Motivating; can all be learned.

We can Manage and Lead other people.

We can Manage & Lead our own Life.

We can Coach other people to Manage & Lead others.

This is Business Coaching.

We can Coach other People to Manage & Lead their own Life.

This is Life Coaching.

“To Be or Not To Be”?

“To Be or Not To Be”? That is the question.

We are Human Beings who have Choice.

We can ‘Be’ or we can ‘not be’.

We are not Being when we are just ’doing’.

The ability to do allows us the ability to choose who we are Being in relationship to whatever we are doing.

The rational physical world of dual reality allows us individual choice of what we want to do.

The emotional spiritual world of duality allows us individual choice of who we choose to Be whilst we are busy doing it.

To be or to do becomes a duality and a choice in the relative world of rational or emotional reality.

The 3rd Way is to choose both.

Being and doing require consciousness and awareness.

We are conscious of our physical actions and we are aware of our emotional beingness, once we become consciously-aware.

We require Conscious-Awareness to discern who we are Being whilst we are doing whatever we are doing.

3 Types of Attraction

Physical Attraction:

Physical Attraction is the force of an energy that is divided by gender.

When energy is separated by male & female gender, the opposing genders will attract each other because the natural state of energy is to be united not separated.

Physical Attraction is determined by the Golden Ratio.

Magnetic Attraction:

Magnetic Attraction is the force of an energy that is divided by polarity.

When energy is divided by positive & negative polarity, the opposing poles will attract each other because the natural state of energy is to be undivided and whole.

Magnetic Attraction is determined by the Golden Mean.

Divine Attraction:

Divine Attraction is our Journey to Oneness.

Pure Energy has no division nor separation and is therefore Absolutely Attractive and Divine.

Divine Attraction is determined by the Golden Rule.

“Be unto others as you would have them Be unto you” is how we become Divinely Attractive.

The Golden Mean

The Golden Mean is the 3rd Way.

In a relative world of Dual Reality, we always have a choice between two opposing realities.

The usual choice is to choose or not to choose.

Not choosing is a choice to receive what we have always received. It is choosing not to change.

A choice requires at least two options to choose from.

When faced with two options, we have a dilemma as to which extreme to choose.

When faced with a dilemma, I always choose the 3rd choice or the 3rd Way.

The 3rd Way is the Golden Mean.

The Golden Mean is the balance between two opposing extremes of experience.

The attainment of balance requires an understanding of the ‘Mean’ or the meaning, by defining the two extreme states of being that are our choice.

The Golden Mean brings our Life into Balance and is always Divine.